1. The victim may be unable to go about her errands in peace.

2.  Harassment is often a prelude to other types of lewd and indecent behavior.  Getting away with something that you shouldn't be doing such as harassment, reinforces the idea that the harasser is entitled to certain things from women or entitled to do certain things to women.  He may take it to the next level by raping, stalking or robbing.

3. The victim may be hindered from going to school and work in peace.  This reduces her earning potential and adversely impacts her grades.

4. The victim may suffer anxiety, unecessary stress and fear during or after the harassment or in anticipation of the next episode of harassment.

5. The victim may develop a fear, a phobia,extreme anger at men or general distrust of men in general, even men who are beneficial to her such as teachers and family friends. I know this has happened to me.

6. In anticipation of more harassment, the victim may develop agoraphobia (http://pages.infinit.net/drnayman/agorapho.htm) or develop a lesser form of anxiety such as simply not wanting to go out of the home.

7. Extreme anger at the men who do this, the men who trivialize it and society in general which doesn't approach the issue appropriately.

 

 

1. Report each and every incident to someone.  For example, I was harassed by a mestizo landworker and  I reported him to the shopping center that he was working on.  The manager of the center contacted his company which of course tried to excuse his behavior.  The company had a contract with the shopping center but the shopping center didn't renew their contract like they usually did.  This prior contract expired two months after the incident and the construction company lost a lot of money that way.  I have no sympathy because the company shouldn't have held up for the mestizo. Who you report it to will vary depending on the type of incident and other factors.  If you need help trying to figure out who you should report your incident to, then contact me and I will try to give you some pointers.

2. Mind your eyes and ears.  These are the portals through which the harasser wants to enter to get to you.  Have your ears covered with an ipod or headphones and wear dark shades.  If harassers cannot get your visual or hearing attention, then they likely will not go through with the harassment.  Make it too much trouble for them to go through to get your attention.  Harassers, especially the older ones, are sneaky and they don't want to cause too big of a scene in which other people will hear them trying to get to you.

3. Avoid being in solitary places.  When I walk through the parking lots, I walk on the outskirts...it is harder for waiting cars to try to harass you that way.

4. Consider carrying pepper spray or another weapon as I do.  You never know when the harassment will turn ugly.  Men love to become verbally and physically nasty when you pretend you don't hear the harassment or you take up for youreslf.  There's no way to tell which approach to use sometimes.  People will say "ignore him or he'll get violent" and then sometimes you ignore him and that makes him angry.  This just proves that the victim is not at fault.  There's really nothing you can do to stop someone hellbent on degrading you.  But you damn sure can make sure the cretin gets what he deserves.

5. Have a ready reply.  If a harasser steps to me, I'll reply with something like "hi coon" or "hi monkey" or "hello cradlerobber".  If they aren't going to be PC when it comes to my gender, then I won't be PC when it comes to race, age or anything else.  Be ware when you use this however.  If you do it when other people are around and hear it, you'll get branded an evil "racist" and other people and the police will be less likely to help you.

6. Have your area's emergency number on speed dial.  You never know when a harasser will try to follow you around or become violent.

7. Get a cellphone.  Tracfone and Net10 phones are excellent prepaid phones for those of you with money and credit issues. 

8. Always sit up the front on a public bus.

9. If you are on the bus and  you see more than two negro men congregating together and you smell alcohol or they seem like the "do nothing" type that loves to harass because they have nothing important to do, change seats.  Get out of there.  Better safe than sorry.  Don't hesistate to move to get out of danger be it on public transportation or while waiting for public transporation.

10. Harassers are wild animals...they smell fear and anxiety.  Be alert, look confident and strong.  They are attracted to youth and innocence and they love to spoil it.

 

These are the tips that help me.