1. Glasses: I used to wear my prescription glasses when I went out even though I didn't
have to wear them all of the time.
2. Glasses over contacts: When I wanted to try contact lenses (and especially when I began wearing
the colored ones), I'd have to wear sunglasses that looked like prescription glasses or regular sunglasses over them whenever
I am in certain areas or at a bus stop. If not, then there are extra leers and inappropriate comments.
They go apeshit over gray eyes as if they've never seen any eyecolor other than pitch black before. If I'd known contacts
would cause this much trouble with men, I'd have stuck to glasses.
3. Mannish Clothing--I used to be a real girly girl, but now much of the time I wear oversized
unisex clothing. Men talk all of this junk about how they want a woman to "be a woman", but when a woman leaves the
house dressed and adorned like a woman, there is much harassment. This is especially true in black and Mestizo infested
areas.
4. Oversized clothing--I don't have particularly large breasts, nor the bubble butts that black
men love. But yet, I have to scrutinize my wardrobe before I go out as if this is Istanbul or something. No clothing
can be fitted. Shirts must be loose to hide the shape of the breast (imagine....a female over 13 with breasts!
Monkeys act like they've never seen this before). All pants must be loose, past the knee (even the cropped pants).
Shirts must also be long enough to cover the behind. Remember the "skirt finger tips" test in grades K-12? Yep,
I still do that folks, except it is not with a skirt, it is with a shirt. Shirts cannot be shorter than my fingertips
when my arms are at my side in certain areas and bus stops. Shirts must be buttoned up to the highest button at the
throat...no collarbones or necks please. I must not wear sleeveless tops...I made the mistake of doing this once
(with an oversize long pair of capris and the top itself was long and baggy) and was still harassed to the point
where I thought I'd have to call the police. It's like I'm Muslim or something with all of the care I have to put into
my wardrobe.
5. No Makeup
6. Hats: This backfired...the monkeys seem to love the mystery of seeing what's behind the hat....especially
if it is a baseball hat...they love these. I've even been harassed in old redneck man bucket hats.
7. Scarfs: When I go to the bus depot in a certain neighboring cities (which is often as I go
to school in that city), I always think about wearing a scarf to shield the hair. Monkeys seem to think you're free
game for lewd comments if you have hair past neck or shoulder length. Even if you have shorter hair or the hair is worn
in certain styles whereby its true length is concealed, these certain styles draw them out. The trick is knowing which
style will do this...figuring it out is not an exact science. You never know what'll set 'em off.
8. Not doing the hair: It's just like what it sounds like....wear the same bun for days on end.
9. Being mindful of the hairstyles I choose: This was discussed earlier.
10. Fake Wedding Rings: Monkeys young or old have no respect for marriage so this too backfired
on me.
11. Coats: When the bus feels particularly unsafe or if I am wearing clothing that doesn't conceal
me as I feel it should (i.e. my oversized stuff was in the wash) or if I am at certain bus stops, I put on my long jacket
even though it is not cold.
12. Headphones: So you can drown out their "hey shortayz" and the beeping and screaming out of
car windows. You see they need you to notice them in order to do their "harassment" properly. The sunglasses and keeping
my head straight keeps the eye contact down. The earphones keep the sound contact down. If they believe I
cannot hear their crudeness they will not do it (at least theoretically they shouldn't).
13. Sunglasses: Hides the eyes. Monkeys love any eye color than their own.
14. Fake Cell Phones: just pretend to be talking on it. They usually need your attention,
visual and audio, before they harass. The sunglasses take care of the visual. This or the walkman will take care
of the audio.
15. Sitting at the front of the bus: young buffoons are more straightforward. Older men
are just as nasty, if not more so, they are just sneakier. I've learned this the hard way. If you don't sit
where they and their do nothing middle aged buddies can make fun of you without the driver or others (such as older women)
seeing and rebuking them, then this cuts down on harassment.